How to make a frame for a mosquito net

If you have ever slept under a mosquito net, you will agree that the round ones are far from optimal (to say it politely). They stick to your face when you move, they never seem to stay where they are supposed to, and fixing them under the bed is a nightmare.

And let's say that, like us, you live in a place where you need to sleep under a net because you want to avoid mosquito bites that might transmit a deadly disease. But, first of all, which net should you buy?

My requirements:

• A rectangular net
• Single bed size, my children's bed size is 200x90 cm
• Completely closed; no doors
• Fine mesh (this means the amount of holes per inch or cm)
• Impregnated with mosquito repellent

I finally bought this net, brand TravelSafe, at bol.com, and it seemed to be one of the few with all my requirements. It came nicely wrapped with an orange bag and it weighs about half a kilo, which is very handy if you need to take it with you in a suitcase. This net is 220x105x200cm, it fits perfectly, and according to the description it has 225 holes per inch, so the mesh is fine enough to avoid mosquitos coming in.

It comes with a white rope and 4 hooks so that you can hang it by drilling holes into the ceiling. I have tried that system before, and it should work perfectly fine with normal adults. However, my children have a tendency to regard almost everything around them as a toy, and they pull the net when coming in and out of bed. The result is that it came loose, and the holes were destroyed.

Luckily for me, I live in the middle of nowhere, but I have a carpenter workshop in from of the door. How lucky is that? I showed them my design, and this is the result. Although it seems dirty, it is important that the net touches the floor, to avoid the mosquitos going under it, and it looks better if it goes over the frame instead of hanging from it.

Some more pictures, for those who may want to give it a try themselves.

How to prepare a super simple treasure hunt

Happy birthday Anna!

Today is my daughter's birthday, and she could choose whether she wanted something special. This year she wanted again a treasure hunt, not during her party, but early in morning before going to school. That meant a treasure hunt at 6.30am!

Well, that only happens once a year, so I prepared everything the night before. I found some scrap paper, and folded it in two, and glued some white paper on top so that the letters would be easy to read.

Then, decide on the number of steps in your treasure hunt. Considering ours had to happen at 6.30am, I kept it to three steps. Choose the places where you will hide the cards, presents, or whatever you want to hide. Then draw each place, or question, in a different sheet of paper (I used an A5). You definitely do not need to be an artist, or have any drawing skill for it.

Almost there. Now you staple it in order, the paper with the first step on top of it. Each paper needs a different staple, so when one later is taken off, the other one remains stapled.

Happy treasure hunting!

Cooking omelettes as mini-pancakes

I hear it often from other parents: "I don't know what to cook anymore! I am running out of ideas!" I have the same feeling, particularly since I have started to cook lunch everyday for my children, (and dinner too!)

Sometimes it helps to just look at your fridge, and see what is left in terms of vegetables. So I found a piece of cabbagge, carrots, and half onion. Which did not look like a promising meal that my children would gladly eat!

Without losing hope, I remembered an Indian recipe of egg balls, and since we recently bought a pan to make the Dutch "poffertjes", I decided to give it a try, and cook them.

So, here it goes the recipe to make vegetables and egg "poffertjes":

Ingredients:

• Two carrots
• Half an onion
• A quarter of a cabbage
• 4 eggs
• Salt

Instructions:

• Shred your vegetables, if you have a food processor, use it, otherwise, use a hand-mixer, a grater, or a knife
• Mix them in a bowl
• Add the eggs, and mix them (or you could also mix the eggs in a different bowl)

• Add the mixture into the pan to bake poffertjes
• Wait a couple of minutes, and remove the omelettes
• You are pretty done, if you do not have a "poffertjes" pan (most likely unless you are a Dutch person), try a flat omelette and cut the omelette in circles. Keep the omelette edges for the salad

Now, I just filled the bottom of the food container with the salad made of shredded cabbage, carrots and onion, and on the top I placed the mini omelettes.

Enjoy cooking and eating (unless you are making this for your children's lunch)!

Internet safety

This is the last post on a series of three posts concerning the use of technology by children.

Key principles for all age groups concerning internet safety:

• Keep lines of communications open.
• Create a list of internet rules with your kids (See Rules 'N Tools Youth Pledge)
• Set parental control at the age appropriate levels and use filtering and monitoring tools as a complement -not a replacement- for parental supervision.
• Supervise all internet-enabled devices and keep computers in a public area of the home.
• Encourage your kids to come to you if they encounter anything online that makes them feel uncomfortable or threatened (Stay calm and don't blame your child; otherwise, they won't turn to you in the future for help when they need it).
• Teach them not to interact with people they don't know offline, because an online predator or cyberbully can disguise him/herself.
• Check the history file on your computer to see which sites your child has accessed.
• Teach your child the golden rule: do unto others as they would have done unto themselves. Research shows that children who are victimised online have often behaved aggressively online.
• Keep doing research, e.g. google acronyms so that you understand the language children are using online.

TV watching suggestions

After a meeting with the ISKR counsellor, Suzy Cheal, we received the following suggestions around TV watching:

• Keep TVs out of the bedroom. Children are more likely to watch a lot more TV (and at times when you can't control it) when the TV is in their rooms. Plus, it's harder for you to monitor what they're watching when they're behind closed doors.
• Turn off the TV during meals. Make mealtime a family time.
• Watch what your kids watch. Talk about what they're seeing. Ask provocative questions such as, "What do you think of that character driving all that alcohol?" State your values clearly. "I don't like it when people swear. I don't want you to swear either."
• If you have a TV set that you bought after January 200, then the TV most likely has V-chip technology. This allows you to block programs that you don't want your child to watch. To setup the V-chip, check your TV's instruction manual or visit the on-screen menu options on your TV. The V-chip is controlled through your TV set's remote.
• If you have cable with hundred's of channels and many setup options, you probably have digital cable. Digital set-top boxes provide advanced parental control capabilities. The features vary by manufacturer and model, but you can typically find specific instructions on how to set up parental control through on-screen manes controlled by your remote control.
• Be aware that other families may not have controls on their TVs, so children often will spend time in homes that do not have parental controls.

Cyber safety and how to help children use technology

I have been worried about technology for a while. What to do, when, how, are there general good practices in this area?

We received lots of practical advice from the counsellor at ISKR, Suzy Cheal. She explained that, in her experience the biggest issue with technology is when it becomes an alternative to interaction between parents and children. Or when boundaries aren't set early enough, e.g. children are allowed to play video games that are not appropriate for their age, or parents let children watch tv until late at night because it is easier than insisting that children go to bed.

General rules she proposed:

• Technology should serve the family and bring you closer; it should not make your family its servant and keep you apart.
• Parents are their children's first and best teachers. Model appropriate technology and media behaviour for your kids.
• Using cell phones, computers, televisions and other electronic devices is a privilege for kids, not a right.
• Set a family media policy. Decide who can use what forms of technology, what constitutes appropriate content for each one, when and where it is acceptable to use each one, and how you will monitor usage. Make sure everyone in the family knows the policy.
• Establish appropriate consequences, both positive and negative, for technology and media usage. Communicate those consequences clearly and often to your kids.
• Establish "technology-free" zones and times in your home when you all "unplug" and concentrate on talking to each other and enjoying each other's company.
• Help your children achieve balance in their lives by encouraging them to stay physically active, enjoy reading, and relax and have fun without electronics.
• Take advantage of resources that "watch" media content, and use them to help you decide when you should say "Yes" or say "No" to your children's media/technology use.
• Talk with other parents. Let them know what your family technology and media policy is and ask how they handle those issues in their homes. Support each other in helping kids use technology and media safely and appropriately.

Advice for children up to 5 years old:

Television

• The American Association of Paediatricians recommends no screen time for children under 2 on the basis that they have seen no studies that prove conclusively that it aids development.
• Limit screen time to 2 hours a day or less for children over the age of 2. Practice "appointment" television. Use your TV guide, and decide in advance what's good to watch. 

Cell phones

• Pay attention to the messages you model - stay off the cell phone and other electronic devices when you're driving or engaged in other activities that deserve your full attention.

Advice for 6-9 years old

Online safety

Content blockers and filters are great tools to use with younger kids. They allow you more control over where they go and what they do online. A content blocker sites with explicit material or limits a child's search to a predetermined set of sites. A content filter scans sites and images and blocks those that contain certain words, key phrases or content.

Look at games or sites with children

• If your children has mobile internet access, it will  be more difficult to monitor and control his or her internet use.
• Nothing can replace involvement and supervision by adults. Keep monitoring how your kids use the internet on a regular basis.

Next post on TV watching and internet safety!

How to cross the border between Uganda and Rwanda

Well, this is not exactly a post about children. It is a post that can make your life easier if you need to cross the Ugandan-Rwandan border at Gatuna.

We went on holidays to Uganda from Rwanda, and on our way there we had quite some delay because we did not know what we had to do exactly. Having three children in the back of the car, and having them going in and out the car several times did not help to have a good start of the holidays!

So, on our way back, I made a small list with the steps to be taken when crossing the border, this time from Uganda to Rwanda.

1. Cross the first gate
2. Go to the Ugandan Immigration Office. Get the passports stamped. Give the Interstate Pass that you got when leaving Rwanda.
3. Go to the police station. Show your car papers, driving licence and the driver's passport.
4. Go to Uganda Revenue Authority and get a stamp.
5. Go in the car and cross the second gate. You will cross a river over a bridge.
6. You will get your temperature checked.
7. Cross the third gate.
8. Go to the Rwandan Immigration Office (entry). Get the passports stamped.
9. Go to Customs.
10. Go to the police station, and show paper from previous police station.

11. Cross the fourth gate, and give the paper you received from the police.

Good luck!